Sorry to say, Friends, it’s not much. “A” is 14, in the eighth grade and three months pregnant. Her mom is a drug addict who has overdosed four times, the last of which they didn’t even take her to the hospital. A stays with her aunt who has told her that she will kick her out when her pregnancy starts to show. The father/boyfriend is 15 and wants her to keep the baby. She is on prenatal vitamins and has been to a doctor a few times and had a couple ultrasounds. SC tells me she’s a good hearted girl who is a little rough around the edges and that she’s short, blond and blue eyed. She wants an open adoption.
SC talked to her again after talking with me on the weekend. She told A a little about me and asked if she’d told any adults in her life or the boyfriend or his parents that she was pursuing giving the baby up for me to adopt. She told SC it was her decision…hers. She had talked to her doctor about it and he told her she didn’t have to have anyone’s permission even though she’s a minor.
I’ve begun to come down from the initial excitement. Taking a more realistic approach now. Not saying it couldn’t happen but it seems so unlikely that it would come to fruition. All it would take is one adult, the boyfriend’s parents for example, telling her they would help her, for it to be all over for me. I’m trying hard to not think too much about it…just let it unfold. I believe the next step is for her to talk to the school social worker and for the social worker to contact an adult in her life. SC has said if nothing seems to be happening in a week or two she will talk to A again and I’ve told SC that I’m ok to just wait until she tells me it’s time to do something like contact a lawyer or make arrangements to meet with A and her family. There’s nothing else I can do anyway…except pray.